Although we can make changes very quickly, it’s the lasting changing in our behaviour that create the success.
The more we repeat something the more we give strength to that neural pathway in the brain, making it difficult to change our behaviour.
The reason people feel they are failing is due to the myth that it takes 21 days to break a habit. In fact this is untrue as ‘The European Journal of Psychology’ found that it took on average 66 days to form a habit so there’s no need to judge yourself if you are not mastering a behaviour straight away.
It is unrealistic and not in conjunction with how your brain operates. Treating failure as learning and giving yourself permission to make mistakes and developing strategies will help get you back on track quickly. Don’t kid yourself that it wont work and give up!
Would you go to the gym once and declare it didn’t work because your body was still the same? Would you plant a seed in the garden and go back a week later wondering where your flower was? Of course not .. this is where you really have to allow yourself the time to change especially if you are trying to lose weight… it takes time for the weight to come off.
Whether it is 66 days or 600 days you have to put in the work. Remember “…it’s the smallest differences that bring about the biggest changes”.
Managing expectation can be tricky, however my aim is to help people make long lasting changes as effectively and as quickly as possible.
Everyone is unique and individual and it really is up to you to decide what you want your outcome to be.
This research acts as a guideline …but only you know how you feel!
Research carried out by “Michael Lambert in the Handbook of Psychotherapy and Behaviour Change” looked at how long it took for a client to start feeling better after beginning therapy. Amazingly, it showed that “30% of people enjoyed “lasting benefit after only 3 sessions” in therapy. 50% showed improvement after just 8 sessions, and 75% after 14 sessions.”